Kaitlyn’s crib converted into a toddler bed. It almost filled the tiny den that served as her room when we lived in Texas. She couldn’t have been older than 3 because that’s when we moved back to Indiana.

One day, Tricia found her standing with her nose in the corner. She watched as Kaitlyn stood, unmoving. When Tricia asked what she was doing, Kaitlyn took Tricia by the hand. Looking deep into her eyes she said, “Momma, I was thought about something bad so I put myself in time out.”

We had never put her in time out. The best we can guess is she saw it on a TV show. I assumed we had discipline down.

When Kaitlyn was six she got a little sister.

Turns out discipline her was a little harder.

One day, Tricia told Adeline not to do something. Adeline asked, “What’s the punishment is I do?”

She sat there for a couple minutes looking pensive. Tricia asked what she was doing. Adeline responded “Weighing my options.”

Two kids, same parents. Once put herself in time out for thinking about doing something wrong. The other weighed out if the crime was worth the punishment.

Saying 13

Do not withhold discipline from a child;
    if you punish them with the rod, they will not die.
Punish them with the rod
    and save them from death. – Proverbs 23:13-14

We didn’t spank either of our girls. Saying 13 isn’t about hitting it’s about discipline. Knowing how to discipline others is tough. Different people need different discipline at different times. My daughters made that obvious.

It Starts with Me

Great leaders have shifted their perspective on discipline.

Leaders tend to have a tremendous amount of self discipline. They look in the mirror before looking out the window. They embrace discipline as a means to an end because

No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it. — Hebrews 12.11

When I struggle with discipline (of myself or others) there is a good chance I’ve lost focus on the end game.

What’s your end game?

What’s the harvest you are looking for?

What discipline is it going to take to get there?

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