Everybody loves a good story. In Wired for Story Lisa Cron unpacks the neurology behind this. When we listen to a good story, our brain actually experiences the things the storyteller was talking about.
Millennia before we began to grasp neurology in general, let alone the neurology of story, Solomon wrote:
The King James Version translates “gossip” as “tale bearer.” Tale bearer is really close to story teller.
I’ve yet to meet someone that doesn’t protest when called a gossip; but we all love to hear a well told tale. When we do, truth or falsehood doesn’t matter. A neural pathway has carved into our mind. Solomon didn’t have good a word for this. It’s interesting that the word he used is only used twice in the Bible; here and in Proverbs 26:22 (which is the same Proverb).
My mom taught me not to gossip. In fact she said, “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.” It’s good to teach kids not to gossip.
Years later, a youth director taught me to protect myself from gossips. He said,“If someone is going to trash to you, they will talk trash about you.” I’ve found this to be true. But, the best wisdom of all is Solomon’s. Years before neurology, he warns about listening to gossip. It will shape the way you see people.
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